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When it’s on….it’s on.

I have been challenged by a fellow blogger Sibba, author of Seeing is Believing… to pick a belief to change within my life. But I thought it would make it more interesting by asking what beliefs you hold that don’t seem to be working.

Whatever one resonates with my personal experience will be the one I choose to re-examine and actively do my part to make the change within my own perspective and life.

We all hold our own personal perspective within this life we live. But some of us share the same ideas planted deep within ourselves, that continually manifest themselves as the struggles we encounter in our daily experiences of life.

The actions I displayed throughout my life all sprung from the seeds of ideas and information planted within me at a very early age, in which I was taught that life was to be lived a certain way and I was to conform to those ways in order to survive within this world successfully. I tried a million different ways to shove myself into this “mold” of who I thought I was supposed to be, failing miserably with each attempt.

Because the truth was, that who I am never fit into that mold.

The end result was the life I aimlessly drifted through, stuck in the idea that something was VERY wrong with me, because I could not live in this world the way I was taught. The burden of this idea led me to a place of self-doubt, self-hatred, self-loathing and the absolute determination to destroy myself.Most of you know about my past and the life I lived in the cesspool of addiction. For years I aimlessly wandered through this wasteland of experience, determined to eradicate the feelings that accompanied the beliefs I held about myself, my life, the world and my place within it.

It wasn’t until I realized that I had a choice to change the limited ideas housed within my perceptions, that I came to understand how my beliefs mirrored the reality I lived, breathed, ate, slept, struggled and survived on a moment to moment basis for most of my life.

I believed I was a worthless, piece of sh*t junkie that would die a worthless junkie….and my life reflected every ounce of that belief.

In the process of constantly re-examining what I hold to be true, false, real, fake, good, bad, etc. I have been offered the opportunity to re-create my existence, by re-defining the very ideas and stubborn beliefs I have and still at times, cling to in regards to life and the role I play within it.

Any ideas not working for you? Any beliefs you would like to embrace within your own life, but can’t seem to discover the means by which they reflect themselves in the experience of your life?

Any one interested in changing a particular aspect of their own life and who would like to participate are welcome to join in on the ride. But for those completely satisfied with life and the answers you have, then your feedback, comments as well as holes you would like to poke in my understanding are all welcome as usual!!!

Any takers???????

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  1. You have so many positive comments and I admire your courage. Simply …God Bless You.. and keep it up. Robbay

    1. Robbay on October 12th, 2007 at 4:31 pm

  2. Accepting the things you cannot change is key for myself. A person could over think life and visualize impossible scenarios, impossible goals, impossible “perfect relationships”. Change what you can!
    I personally feel the BEST when I put important people close to myself. Family is A-number one.
    Second: I have a passion for something…golf in this case…It can be anything really - as long as YOU are passionate about “it”
    Third: Relax. You do not need to be perfect because you CAN’T be anyway. Do fun things with fun people, laugh a lot, sing, enjoy the day!!
    Some days just are not that good. Thank the good Lord that each one ends, and a fresh new day awaits.
    This is how I try to be.

    How’s Morgan Today! ?? :-)

    Thanks Eric…
    You are right in believing in that aspect of the Serenity prayer….
    The power to change the things I (we) can falls into the realm of personal
    responsibility for discovering the ways and means of achieving a life that
    resonates within as a life I choose to live.
    For me my passion lies within writing as well as personal development….
    for me I have lived many years settling for a life of self-loathing and acting that
    belief out in so many ways (My addiction to heroin, definitely speaks volumes of that)
    I know I’m not perfect….and I certainly don’t dream of ever being something so boring :)
    This is just me…thinking, thinking, thinking, and questioning, questioning and questioning,
    in order to push past the lies and half truths I have told myself….If I want to be more…
    I have to conceive of the possibility that there is more then what I think I believe I the moment.
    Addicts…we always want MORE!!!
    On a lighter note I am WONDERFUL today Eric…thanks for asking :)

    2. Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" on October 11th, 2007 at 3:34 pm

  3. The belief I often find myself struggling with is recognizing when my actions and achievements do reflect who I am. Ha ha, so sort of a an opposite of yours. But I experience the same sense of self-doubt because it sets of an expectation for myself (from both myself and others) that I may or may not be ready to accept as who I am…yet. It’s realizing that I am good enough to take credit for worthy actions or big achievements.

    Great post! I love when bloggers take something and turn it into something different, putting his/her mark on it. =)

    Joanne…I like that twist you put on it..
    I sometimes forget to look at what I do achieve and stay focused on what I have not achieved.
    Excellent point…..I’m going chew on that thought for a while!

    3. Joanne on October 11th, 2007 at 3:05 pm

  4. I like the way you chose to respond to my belief post. I knew you’d have something interesting :)

    But to answer, I had to think hard about this one Morgan.

    First, I had to come up with a limiting belief! I thought, I work on this all the time!!! What thought or belief system do I habor that doesn’t work for me?? Slowly thoughts about money or school or the homeschooling came to mind and I tried to put words to what I knew was some incorrect belief that’s been causing trouble.

    I gave up for a bit and it HIT ME!

    The belief that I must change is, “that I’m not good enough.”

    Most of my issues and practically ALL of my fears can be traced back to my one thought/fear of not being good enough.

    What ever it is that I want to do, or even if/when I’m in the middle of it… some part of me worries or frets that I might not be good enough, might not be able to handle it, etc etc.

    What a limiting, energy stealing idea!!!

    Thanks, Morgan!!

    Sibba….I hear you loud and clear on that one!!!! There are moments when I do have that feeling associated with particular actions within my own life…but I also know that the feeling is NOT as strong as it used to be ans in effect either is the belief.
    I thought it would be an interesting idea to get others viewpoints on beliefs and such. But I may have to just dive back into myself to find what isn’t resonating properly…I’m thinking something very outlandish…but who knows the day is still young.
    Thanks for thinking of me as always!

    Sibbia

    4. Sibbia on October 11th, 2007 at 1:59 pm

  5. Limiting Beliefs include -

    * That one has specific capabilities, roles, or traits which cannot be escaped or changed.
    * That one cannot succeed so there is no point committing to trying.
    * That a particular opinion is right therefore there is no point considering other viewpoints.
    * That a particular action or result is the only way to resolve a problem.


    I agree with all these points Franco…they are the essence of what my life has been comprised of in the past…but I willing to admit that today..regardless of what I “think” there are still limits in my beliefs….and I would venture to say in many peoples beliefs that keep many people stuck in the lives we settle for instead of the lives we truly desire.

    Yikes!!!!!!!Mighty

    6. Franco Yong on October 11th, 2007 at 4:03 am

  6. Hi Morgan…here I go with a long feedback. When I speak of a “belief change”, I mean to say “limiting belief”. I ain’t quiet sure what “seeing is believing” has in mind when she said “to change a belief”. Think about it…

    “The relationship between belief and knowledge is subtle. Believers in a claim typically say that they know that claim. For instance, those who believe that the Sun is a god will report that they know the Sun is a god. However, the terms belief and knowledge are used differently by philosophers.

    Epistemology is the philosophical study of knowledge and belief. A primary problem for epistemology is exactly what is needed in order for us to have knowledge. Philosophy has traditionally defined knowledge as justified true belief. The relationship between belief and knowledge is that a belief is knowledge if the belief is true, and if the believer has a justification (a good reason) for believing it is true.

    A false belief is not considered to be knowledge, even if it is sincere. A sincere believer in the flat earth theory does not know that the Earth is flat. Similarly, a truth that nobody believes is not knowledge, because in order to be knowledge, there must be some person who knows it.”

    Therefore to change a limiting belief is to elicit and understand a person’s values and is to get the person to the resource to gain knowledge for the limiting belief to take place. Only then the boundary condition(s) can be explored. Before such a change, the person has to know that he or she is willing to accept the transformation.

    In NLP intervention, a new outcome has to be future paced to ensure that the change is permanently.

    That’s my viewpoint.

    :-) Sunshine to you always.

    Franco

    Thanks Franco….I wasn’t looking to change a belief in the sense of trying to “prove” some sort of novel truth that the masses believe is a fact. This is more about a personal change in beliefs, of which I carry that has not resulted in me feeling empowered in the wake of it’s results.
    I’m not looking to change my perception or others in regards to arguing whether the world is flat, round, sphere shaped or what not. This is more personal in the sense of the beliefs that “shape” the world I essentially live in.
    But I appreciate your feedback….sometimes the idea I present are clear to me…but I wrote them…so I would hope they would be ha!
    How cute is it that my big brother is looking out for his little sis!
    Mighty

    7. Franco Yong on October 11th, 2007 at 4:00 am

  7. My life and all my beliefs are perfect.

    Opps, a second just passed by and I just thought how it could be better.

    o.k. three seconds just passed and I just justified why am in this situation and I’m ok with it. I’m back to being perfect again.

    This back and forth with the self and our beliefs is a constant exercise. But you hit the nail on the head with this statement, ‘It wasn’t until I realized that I had a choice to change the limited ideas housed within my perceptions, that I came to understand how my beliefs mirrored the reality I lived, breathed, ate, slept, struggled and survived on a moment to moment basis for most of my life.’

    Choice is such a powerful thing. A gift of choice, free will, or whatever you want to call it. We have a choice. Excellent post Morgan!
    Rolando…..You perfect man you!!!!
    You really hit the other nail upon th head when you mentioned justification…..the enemy of choice.
    My experience with justification and rationalization is that they whittle away the freedom that choices present, because sometimes it’s easier (so we think) to believe that the capacity to change who we are cannot be something so far removed from who we are I the present time…so why bother…we’re perfect right!
    I know that I have the very, very contrasting portions of my life to compare the beliefs I have carried.
    A homeless, junkie, victim(volunteer) of domestic violence, low down thief, sneaky conniving liar and master manipulator to the person I am today who is nothing more of the aspects of who I used to be.
    But only because I changed the inner workings of my beliefs…..both those portions of myself at times were convinced (justifiably so) that there was not much I could change about who I was….
    But upon pushing past the levels of my so called comfort zones I have discovered the enemy within…which is essentially myself; the misinformation I carry…..that if not challenged would have me stand still in one place called indecision for the rest of my life stuck in the thought of “what if?”
    “Shoulda, woulda, coulda, didn’t”

    8. Rolando on October 10th, 2007 at 5:00 pm

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