Comments on: Surrender http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/ A 30 Day Experiment. Addiction to Recovery and Beyond. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 01:37:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: mighty http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-491 mighty Sat, 10 Nov 2007 01:39:34 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-491 Thank you for you input Patricia...I think you covered all the aspects i missed! And very well at that I may add! Control being an illusion was a tough pill to swallow at first, but understanding the freedom that this "truth" would offer mode the transition of understanding to comprehension and application so much simpler! Still today i keep finding more "illusions" that I have run after for years...I like the freedom that relinquishing control provides me with! Thank you for you input Patricia…I think you covered all the aspects i missed! And very well at that I may add!
Control being an illusion was a tough pill to swallow at first, but understanding the freedom that this “truth” would offer mode the transition of understanding to comprehension and application so much simpler!
Still today i keep finding more “illusions” that I have run after for years…I like the freedom that relinquishing control provides me with!

]]> By: Patricia http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-489 Patricia Sat, 10 Nov 2007 00:43:00 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-489 When I first ran across the idea of surrender in a 12-Step program, I didn't understand it. I didn't like the idea that I was powerless either. I thought the I was so in control of my life and my world. The reality was that I was out of control and didn't want to know it. Not being in control was just too frightening and too much like my childhood living with incest and betrayal. I tried to control everything so that I would never be hurt that way again. The reality was that I was hurting myself and those that I loved and wanted to protect the most. Surrender and admitting to being powerless gave me the freedom to let go of my illusion of being in control. Control is always just an illusion. It is one that I held on to with all of my might. I let go and surrendered when I realized that I wasn't happy and nothing that I was doing was working. When I surrendered and admitted to my powerlessness, I found me. This is a wonderful article. Your courage and committment to your recovery come through in each of your articles that I have read. When I first ran across the idea of surrender in a 12-Step program, I didn’t understand it. I didn’t like the idea that I was powerless either. I thought the I was so in control of my life and my world. The reality was that I was out of control and didn’t want to know it. Not being in control was just too frightening and too much like my childhood living with incest and betrayal. I tried to control everything so that I would never be hurt that way again. The reality was that I was hurting myself and those that I loved and wanted to protect the most. Surrender and admitting to being powerless gave me the freedom to let go of my illusion of being in control. Control is always just an illusion. It is one that I held on to with all of my might. I let go and surrendered when I realized that I wasn’t happy and nothing that I was doing was working. When I surrendered and admitted to my powerlessness, I found me. This is a wonderful article. Your courage and committment to your recovery come through in each of your articles that I have read.

]]> By: mighty http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-472 mighty Tue, 06 Nov 2007 18:37:38 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-472 Susie... Thank you for your viewpoint as it relates to so many other aspects of who we are as people. You are right...the amount of energy expended in trying to force a solution, is typically the means to only perpetuate the problem or situation Susie…
Thank you for your viewpoint as it relates to so many other aspects of who we are as people. You are right…the amount of energy expended in trying to force a solution, is typically the means to only perpetuate the problem or situation

]]> By: mighty http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-471 mighty Tue, 06 Nov 2007 18:36:08 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-471 Rolando....lol I often find loopholes as well.....those tend to be my "enemies" justification and rationalization. They have the capacity to find loopholes in any train of thought! The freedom in n longer having to hide the truth of any given situation is the whole point behind surrender...that why ya gotta LET GO!!!! or be dragged as we say here in NY. a point o remember is that we ourselves are powerless over anything outside ourselves...the power we have is within us, within our thoughts and our reactions to situations..... Rolando….lol I often find loopholes as well…..those tend to be my “enemies” justification and rationalization. They have the capacity to find loopholes in any train of thought!
The freedom in n longer having to hide the truth of any given situation is the whole point behind surrender…that why ya gotta LET GO!!!! or be dragged as we say here in NY.
a point o remember is that we ourselves are powerless over anything outside ourselves…the power we have is within us, within our thoughts and our reactions to situations…..

]]> By: mighty http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-470 mighty Tue, 06 Nov 2007 18:32:42 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-470 Speedy...I'm with you in the understanding of how much better life has become since the last time I used any mind or mood altering substance...It was hard...mentally and physically....but the days that followed that initial surrender in relation to using have definitely been better. Speedy…I’m with you in the understanding of how much better life has become since the last time I used any mind or mood altering substance…It was hard…mentally and physically….but the days that followed that initial surrender in relation to using have definitely been better.

]]> By: Susie http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-469 Susie Tue, 06 Nov 2007 09:03:57 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-469 I can relate to surrendering to powerlessness. Sometimes we put so much energy in fighting something that we can't find the right solution to the problem or there isn't enough energy left to find a solution. It's like fighting windmills, we fight something that might not be the real problem. By surrendering we give ourselves the time to see the real problem and we reease energy to find a real solution that work for us. I can relate to surrendering to powerlessness. Sometimes we put so much energy in fighting something that we can’t find the right solution to the problem or there isn’t enough energy left to find a solution. It’s like fighting windmills, we fight something that might not be the real problem. By surrendering we give ourselves the time to see the real problem and we reease energy to find a real solution that work for us.

]]> By: Rolando http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-468 Rolando Mon, 05 Nov 2007 22:35:46 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-468 Hi Morgan, I wish I can let go and relinquish control. Problem with me is that I always seem to find a loop hole. ok maybe not always, but most times. The sense of freedom that I received was that I no longer had to hide the truth of my situation. The truth, the surrender had set me free. It was the lowest I could go at the time and there was only one direction to go and that was up. It wasn't straight up, but it was an upward direction, lol The memory still tugs at me, but I'm better able to deal with it now. I don't know if you or anyone could have surrendered first. When you're in that zone, you probably don't even realize there's a problem. You'll handle it tomorrow. . . Now I believe it's just a matter of controlling whatever tempts us. Whether it be drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, etc. There is too much as stake, including lives, your life. I'm glad that 'life' is your guidepost now. You've won already! Hi Morgan, I wish I can let go and relinquish control. Problem with me is that I always seem to find a loop hole. ok maybe not always, but most times.

The sense of freedom that I received was that I no longer had to hide the truth of my situation. The truth, the surrender had set me free. It was the lowest I could go at the time and there was only one direction to go and that was up.

It wasn’t straight up, but it was an upward direction, lol

The memory still tugs at me, but I’m better able to deal with it now. I don’t know if you or anyone could have surrendered first. When you’re in that zone, you probably don’t even realize there’s a problem. You’ll handle it tomorrow. . .

Now I believe it’s just a matter of controlling whatever tempts us. Whether it be drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, etc. There is too much as stake, including lives, your life.

I’m glad that ‘life’ is your guidepost now. You’ve won already!

]]> By: Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-467 Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" Mon, 05 Nov 2007 20:18:18 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-467 Mighty, you have to be one of the most sane people on the planet. Your blog is one that always has such deep and defining words. Often I read them more than once, because you pack so much emotion into a small space. I remember finally admiting that I was powerless over the alcohol in my life. It was so hard to do... I'm not sure why. Ever day after that has been better because of this :-) Mighty, you have to be one of the most sane people on the planet. Your blog is one that always has such deep and defining words. Often I read them more than once, because you pack so much emotion into a small space.
I remember finally admiting that I was powerless over the alcohol in my life. It was so hard to do… I’m not sure why. Ever day after that has been better because of this :-)

]]> By: mighty http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-466 mighty Mon, 05 Nov 2007 19:47:36 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-466 Hey AntiBarbie thanks for stopping by. I agree with you on the helplessness factor in some respects....but in regards to powerlessness I'm not referring to helplessness. When I write about acceptance and powerlessness, I write in relation to the paradox that one finds in discovering their own personal power through these principles..... think of WWII and Japan's surrender to the US....when they finally gave up(surrendered, relinquished control) they opened a doorway which led them to become one of the most powerful countries in the world. Hey AntiBarbie thanks for stopping by.
I agree with you on the helplessness factor in some respects….but in regards to powerlessness I’m not referring to helplessness. When I write about acceptance and powerlessness, I write in relation to the paradox that one finds in discovering their own personal power through these principles…..
think of WWII and Japan’s surrender to the US….when they finally gave up(surrendered, relinquished control) they opened a doorway which led them to become one of the most powerful countries in the world.

]]> By: AntiBarbie http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/comment-page-1/#comment-465 AntiBarbie Mon, 05 Nov 2007 15:37:41 +0000 http://themiracleprocess.com/2007/11/05/surrender/#comment-465 I don't know. I think there is a large difference between helplessness and acceptance. Helplessness often carries a victim mentality with it. I don’t know. I think there is a large difference between helplessness and acceptance. Helplessness often carries a victim mentality with it.

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